A Daddy Dom is Both a Daddy and a Dom

Now that you have an idea of what a Daddy is, and what a dom is, you can begin to understand what a Daddy Dom is. As the title suggests, a Daddy Dom is both of these things at once. To recap, a daddy is a caregiver in a CG/l relationship and a dom is the dominant partner in a D/s relationship. To be a Daddy Dom is to be both a caregiver and a dom at the same time, with the title of “Daddy”. For a Daddy Dom, the term “Daddy” is more than just a term of endearment, and it goes beyond describing his role within a CG/l dynamic, it is also the title he chooses to use as a dom within a D/s relationship. In other words, to be a Daddy Dom is to be in a relationship that has both a D/s dynamic, and a CG/l dynamic. It’s the marrying of these two dynamics which creates a DD/lg (Daddy Dom / little girl) dynamic.

How Are Daddy Doms Different From Other Doms

On the most basic level, the difference between Daddy Doms and other types of doms is just that Daddy Doms are in, or prefer to be in, CG/l relationships. He derives emotional satisfaction from being in such a relationship, as does the little in that relationship. So, the key difference is that he isn’t just a dom, he is also a daddy. What type of dom that person is, is a very different question. Every person and every relationship is unique. With that being said, rather than comparing and contrasting different types of doms based on the titles they may use, I think it would be far more useful to describe the most common attributes of Daddy Doms, and I acknowledge upfront that I’m generalizing here.

He’s Fatherly

Being a daddy, not just a dom, a Daddy Dom is of course going to be very nurturing and have an almost father-like role to play in his babygirl’s life. As such, he will be emotionally strong, protective, supportive, and will be a leader and a mentor. He is the type of man who always wants what’s best for her, and who puts her needs before his own at all times. He is proud of her and celebrates her growth and her achievements. He values her above all else and there is no limit to how far he’d go to keep her happy and safe. He would kill for her, or die for her if necessary, and without a second thought. He will be a role model and will help guide her in life. If she gives him children, he will be an excellent father. If she already has children, and he is a part of their lives, he will love them just the same, treat them no differently, and will love them as an extension of herself, rather than seeing her as a woman with another man’s children. He is good father material all the way around. He is a daddy to his very core. His love for her is forever, similar to how a father’s love is forever. If there comes a time when she’d be happier without him, he’d much rather allow her that than to hold on to her and strip her of that happiness, but he will never stop loving her. Even if they end up separating, he will continue to love and support her, and to help her move forward, he would never tear her down or hold her back in life.

It’s an Integral Part of Who He Is

Being a Daddy Dom is a very natural thing for those who are. You can peel back all of the layers, and underneath it all they are still Daddy. So, daddies are always daddies, and they tend to have an unconditional, forever kind of love. But that does not necessarily mean that they are going to be in a 24/7 D/s relationship. Living together and having a 24/7 relationship does seem to be the most natural fit for a Daddy Dom, but it’s not always the case. Still, even if your daddy does not live with you, and even if the D/s aspect of the relationship is more scene-based, the being your daddy part of the relationship should always be 24/7. Daddies don’t ever stop being daddies. Your daddy should be a person who will always be there for you when you need him, no matter what.

He’s Sweet, Kind, Loving, Gentle, Warm, Affectionate

Daddy doms tend to be the sweetest, kindest, most loving, most gentle, most affectionate type of doms. You would not expect to receive anywhere near the same level of warmth within a master/slave relationship, or a sadist/masochist relationship for example. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing – we all have different needs and daddies aren’t for everyone. Not to say that masters and sadists can’t also show affection or be gentle either. It’s just that with Daddy Doms that is a much stronger focus. It’s part of the job description for them. As caregivers, they are essentially this way by definition.

He Loves Her Little Side and Provides a Safe Space for Her to Be Herself

A Daddy Dom is attracted to the youthfulness and innocence that his babygirl brings to the relationship. He cherishes her little side and provides a safe emotional space for her to open up and let that side of her out. He helps her and encourages her to embrace her inner child. He allows her to unplug from any stress, responsibilities, and expectations imposed on her by the rest of the world, and to just relax for a while.

He will never be impatient or annoyed with her little side, or treat her harshly, because to do so would irreparably damage that emotional sanctuary and be a devastating blow to her and to the relationship. It is absolutely critical to the survival of the relationship that she be able to trust him implicitly. She never feels safer or more comfortable than when she is in his arms, because that is the one place on Earth she can be her true self, and where she can be worry-free. He would never do anything to compromise that.

He accepts her, appreciates her, and loves her exactly as she is. By allowing her to really be herself, and loving her in such a deep, intimate, unconditional way, he brings out the best in her in a very powerful way. It’s an extraordinarily empowering, liberating, and emotionally fulfilling experience for the both of them. Each of them empowers the other to be who they are, without fear of judgement, and loves the other completely. Rather than having to hide parts of themselves, as they do from others, within their relationship they are instead each free and encouraged to embrace and share those parts of themselves, and they are only loved more for it. 

He’s Playful and Keeps Things Fun and Light

Daddy Doms tend to be more playful and light-hearted than other doms. He might be funny and goof around with her, he might tickle her, he might be very sensual with her. Few things in life bring him as much happiness as seeing her smile and hearing her giggle. He is not serious and rigid all of the time, as other types of doms might tend to be. He can also be very relaxed and tender with her. Sex may alternate frequently between playfulness, making passionate love to her, and fucking her brains out. If he is strict with her, the focus is not self-serving, but instead focused on meeting her needs and achieving her goals. Rules will probably be less centered around procedure and protocol, and more around her own health, safety, and emotional well-being. An interesting observation: DD/lg is often very misunderstood and stigmatized by society, being seen as a darker, uglier side of BDSM, when in fact it often is incredibly light and beautiful, perhaps more so than most vanilla relationships even.